What is Ghosting?
Ghosting is one of the cruelest and painful things someone can do in a relationship. No one wants to be left in the dark and wondering why their other half has stopped contacting them and cut off communication in the relationship.
It can be heartbreaking and confusing to have someone you love suddenly stop texting or calling and acting as if you don’t exist anymore. Ghosting is one of the worst ways to end a relationship and no one deserves to be treated like that.
Due to millennial culture, many people find it acceptable to end relationships by texting, over social media, or purely by disappearing and stopping all contact with the person i.e. ghosting.
Ghosting is ‘‘the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.’’
Ghosting can happen with friends, someone you’re dating, or someone you’re in a long-term relationship with. Ghosting is a very cowardly way to break up with someone and it shouldn’t be tolerated.
Breaking up with someone is a very difficult thing to do and should always be done face to face when possible. Ghosting can cause emotional hurt and damage and it’s not fair on you to have someone end a relationship suddenly just like that.
You can feel very unimportant and frustrated when a boyfriend or girlfriend has ghosted you, especially when you’d developed feelings for them. You can feel like you’ve been pushed to the outside and disrespected by that person seeing as they don’t have the decency to talk to you directly and tell you how they’re feeling.
It’s normal to feel sad and upset about your partner stopping contacting you, and here are five things to do if you’ve been ghosted in your relationship by your boyfriend or girlfriend.
1. Don’t Wait To Hear From Them
The worst thing you can do is wait around to hear from them, which will lead to you overthinking, being paranoid, getting upset, and being sad that they’re not contacting you.
2. Ask Them To Explain Their Behaviour
You deserve an explanation as to why they’ve behaved like this and cut all contact. It’s a horrible way to be treated and it can be extremely hard to understand why someone would shut you out of their life all of a sudden, especially if you were together for a long time and were very close with each other.
3. Don’t Stalk Them On Social Media
It can be so tempting to constantly look at their social media to see what they’re doing instead of being with you. You’ll only torture yourself and make yourself upset and stressed by looking at their Facebook, Instagram, or Snapchat to try and keep up with their life.
Forgetting about them and erasing any memories of them can be the easiest way to start healing from the hurt caused and move on from the breakup.
4. Get Closure
Leaving things open and without any explanation as to why they’ve left you and stopped all communication can be very hard to move on from. Try to get some type of closure so you can start rebuilding your life without that person.
Understanding why they’ve done this and getting closure is the best way to move on from this painful situation.
5. Move On From The Relationship
The best way to recover from the hurt of being ghosted is to leave the relationship in the past and move on without that person in your life. Stop thinking about why they’re not contacting you, stop waiting around to hear from them, and start living your life with people who make you happy and deserve your time.
